OohhoO wrote:Well being a parent is a hard & stressy job, & you're not going to get everything right (& it would probably be a disaster if you did). You have to make choices & compromises & only time will end up telling wether or not you made a good job of it.
Looking at my daughter & her personality I think we've done a pretty reasonable job thus far - not perfect, but not bad. My smoking 3-5 ciggies an evening on the balcony is a small thing compared to parents who for instance stuff their children full of sweets & biscuits or feed them out of tins & the freezer & microwave rubbish & oven chips & <shudder> McDonalds & coca-cola & other sweet drinks. Or people who have kids at 16 or earlier just so they can scrounge as much as possible off the state & completely ignore their kids development into mature human beings. Or parents who beat their kids up or sexually abuse them or spend every evening at the pub & stagger home stinking of beer or work until their kids are in bed or spend half their evenings screwing their secretary or let their kids stay out with the chavs until midnight every night.
Did I already cover the majority of modern parents?
I have never really understood why people need to compare things, saying there are worse things, ofcourse there is, but just because some things are worse it dosent make another one more right.
It's like if I would be drinking more or less every day and then say that it could be worse like Hard drugs, I don't see things like you do thats for sure, as I said I aint perfect, but I wouldent argue with someone if he told me that I was an idiot for useing this or that, because he would be perfectly right.
Before you have a family I don't really care, but when you do then I have zero tolerance tbh, there is no excuses for useing any kind of drugs atleast not when you got kids.
I don't expect this to be the case really, because thats just not how the reality looks today, but makeing excuses for useing whatever drug annoys me, because there is none.
I don't doubht that you have raised you'r kids well, that wasent really the point atall.