People do feel shame and pride, but that doesn't mean it's right. People say "It was the ENglish who oppressed the Irish and you're English, so you should feel ashamed." And put that way people buy it, because (a) guilt is a natural response to blame, whether the blame is warranted or not.Sharkith wrote:I still find it hard to reconcile what some of you are driving at with the comments I get day and daily fom a lot of English people I know many of whom readily cite shame and pride in the same breath associated with this empire and the dominance of the language. No matter. You choose to have it how you wish. I will nonetheless decide where I honestly feel I wish to come from and right now I took a big step away from where I traditionally thought I ought to feel welcome.
But there is another reason we feel shame and it's very simple to understand. It's because of labels and identity. If you are identified (by yourself and by others) by a label (such as "English") that is then used to identify the people who invaded Ireland, you identify yourself with those people.
If people were more precise, and included a generation number in the label, you'd not feel the same. If people say English386 invaded Ireland, but referred to you as English502, you'd easily seperate yourself. I'm not suggesting people do this, I'm just highlighting what I think is going on psychologically.
Shark, I would ask you to consider something about your feelings about English shame. I am English. I have a small amount of Scots blood, but it hasn't really impacted me culturally, and I feel part of the English culture. I think the English invasions and activities in Ireland were wrong. They are not actions I would take myself or support. I'd argue fiercely against them and I'd feel frustrated if my government backed them. So what cause have I got for shame?
I hear you when you say it's not about people, but you can't actually take the people out of it entirely. After all is said and done, it comes down to someone like me being made to feel like a bad person without ever having contributed to the crime.
The people trying to make people like me feel responsible or shameful are the people doing wrong, because they are spreading predjudice that is based upon race/nationality. Worse, they are contributing to a culture of hate. Feelings of resentment held by the Irish toward the English are equally wrong, because you are resenting innocent people for something done by someone else. Validating and reinforcing those feelings of resentment prevents us all moving on to a happy and peaceful situation.
I'm not saying you are doing those things, Shark, but it's where the idea of blaming people for actions of others eventually leads. It's been the basis of a lot of war (look at the Balkans, for example).
I don't pretend the English are saints today. The war in Iraq is a traversty and we are all responsible because we did not prevent it happening. But we should keep accountability to the things for which we are responsible and not muddy the waters with other issues.