With regards to moderators:-
1. I don't use FH much, so I can't comment on that forum's moderators.
2. On Prydwen Net, I have to agree that the moderators are quite fair and do a good job, even though I admit I've provoked their wrath on several occasions.
3. About moderators in general:- They are human and do make mistakes. They are entitled to their own opinions. However, moderators I feel, should set an example and avoid making statements that are contentious. They should NEVER take sides, however much they are tempted to do so. Personally, I think moderators should be voted in and serve a pre-determined time in "office". When that time is up, then the forum community should nominate others for the roll of moderator and vote for them. I certainly don't think moderators should be moderators "for life", unless they are consistently voted into office.
With regards to adding:-
1. By and large I identify with Norcott's point of view. If it's in the game, not against any official rules and is not exploiting a known bug (as identified by the game developers) then it's fair.
2. I can sympathise with those who don't believe that adding is "sporting", however...
3. Having rules of engagement will never work, so there's no point drawing up any such rules. Anyone who tries to introduce such rules and expects a) Everyone to abide by them and b) Thinks they will work, is living in "Cloud Cuckoo Land". Even if a number of people do agree to abide by the rules, eventually they will break them... that's only human nature, because everyone breaks/bends rules to suit themselves (e.g. how many drivers have broken the speed limit, intentionally or otherwise?)
4. The only way to permanently resolve the adding issue is for Mythic to introduce coding that prevents adding.
Finally, war is war. It's not meant to be anything else, other than ugly. What is it good for? (don't reply with the words to the song).

There was one moment in WW1, one Christmas, when the opposing forces agreed not to "add"... it was when they tentatively crawled out of the trenches and played football in "No-Man's Land". It was a very brief moment when an agreement was reached, but what happened? Yes, the Generals ordered them to carry on fighting... so the "rules" came to nothing!
Just be thankful it is only a game and that you are not stuck in a trench in real life with shells exploding all around you and where every other person has dysentery.
Enjoy the game for what it is... a chance to have fun without any real threat to your life! Eventually Mythic will make you the game of your dreams!